“We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.”
― Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture
- First off, the best advice I can possibly give you is ALWAYS and I do mean ALWAYS feed the twins at the same time. Especially at night. If you don't you will literally spend all day and all night feeding your babies. If one wakes up to eat in the middle of the night, wake the other twin up and feed them too. Trust me, you want all the sleep you can get.
- You control what is night and what is day for them, you set the schedule. Set it for what works for you. For example, if you are not a morning person you probably shouldn't be putting the babies to bed at eight at night unless you want to wake up at six or seven in the morning.
- I actually stumbled on this by accident but I think its part of why my twins sleep so well. After my C-Section I was told to rest as much as I could so I was pretty much trapped in my bed room. (Which was torture after two months of bed rest) I pretty much just resorted to catching up on all of my favorite T.V. shows and reading books, however I am deaf so I keep the T.V. pretty loud in order to hear it. Well the babies got used to the loud noise and now they don't wake each other up when they cry. Seriously, as soon as you can, get them used to noises while they sleep. It will give you more sleep and allow you to do chores during the day without worrying about if you will wake them up or not.
- Do not let the babies be a reason for you not to get out anymore, make them your reason to go out. Babies LOVE going outside and seeing new places, take them on walks, go out to restaurants, what have you, just make sure you get out once in a while before that confining house drives you insane. A wise brother in law once told me that if you want good kids then you take them places, let them learn how to act in public.
- Use the babies naps as your opportunity to do whatever you want. Make sure you set a little time aside for you during the day, people go crazy when they don't get enough time for themselves. Just ask my husband, he will tell you all about it.
- This one you have probably heard before, and its actually one I myself have a really hard time with. I can not stress this enough. It is okay to just let your babies cry, its actually good for them to learn how to self sooth. If you ever find yourself getting frustrated or mad because you are trying to get stuff done and the baby just keeps crying then just stop what you are doing, put them somewhere safe and step outside where you cant hear them to take a breather. They will be fine I promise, you can take five minutes to yourself to re-coupe.
- Last but not least, give yourself a pat on the back. Your a Mom of twins, its hard work and worth every second.